A lot of people don’t know this, but I am really shy. I do warm up after a little while, but that first couple of minutes with a stranger is hellacious for me. I worry that I have something in my teeth or that, maybe, I’ve already acquired unsightly pit stains – the list of awkward possibilities is endless.

So, imagine my horror when Bill told me that I would be accompanying Christina (talented Bourke bookkeeper and tax preparer, if you didn’t know) into the Kentucky wide-open to hand out giftbags to folks. I lost sleep, had difficulty eating and found myself seriously unhappy for the few days leading up to our excursion.

But what could I do? I believe that if I spoke to Bill about my affliction, he would have given me a pass. However, I didn’t want to do that. Instead, I put on my Big-Girl pants and headed out.

After a few shops, Christina couldn’t find a parking spot and asked if I would go alone. My hands started to sweat, my chest constricted, I nodded miserably and left the safe cocoon of the car.

And, just like that, my stress bubble popped. I joked around with the proprietress. I was calm and engaging. I did what I set out to do and it felt good. There is no doubt that, without meaning to, Bourke Accounting pushed me way out of my comfort zone.

The problem that some of us have with social anxiety, is that we say, “Well, this is just me.” Don’t believe that for a second. Shyness might be an aspect of your personality, but it isn’t who you are. Pyschcentral.com’s article, “6 Ways to Overcome Social Anxiety,” has a few ways to combat shyness. Some are rather stupid, like “Create an exposure hierarchy.” Okay, why couldn’t the author just say: Hey, make a list of the social things that freak you out? However, some of the advice is solid, such as, deep breathing, therapy and, quite simply, fighting through the fear.

I fought through the fear and came out the other side, victorious. This does not mean that I will no longer suffer from social anxiety. However, it does mean that I am coming from a better starting place and that I now know that I can, successfully, converse with new people. By the end of the day, I wasn’t even remotely nervous.

Bourke Accounting representatives won’t make you put your hand into a tank of creepy crawlies. They won’t even force you to give a public speech. However, if your phobia happens to be money-related, our Bourke Accounting experts can help you fight through the fear, too. Our Bourke Accounting bookkeepers and tax preparers can show the way to a better night’s sleep and less anxiety during the day. And if you have to tighten that belt a little, Bourke Accounting can show you ways to make it a little less painful and a little less scary.

Come see us any time. Our number is 502-451-8773 and don’t forget to visit our website at www.bourkeaccounting.com. See you soon!

Written by Sue H.